Individual insight
What is there to know about a person?
Aristotle said "Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom" . But he forgot to mention what exactly there is to know about a person. So what makes an individual different from another, in a way which benefits from special explanation and consideration?
This is not a fixed article, but rather an evolving document attempting to describe and organize the various types of insights that collectively make up the understanding of a person.
The list should be relevant for anyone interested in understanding how any individual human works, be it themselves or a loved one. Think of this as understanding human identity anatomy (as opposed to ordinary human anatomy, which is focused on the body).
The contents can be used as an index when constructing an individual user manual .
The main sections are:
Core
What is important to me.
Values
Virtues
Principles
Life perspective
How I think about and approach life.
What I measure myself on
What I optimize for
What I consider success to be
What I believe about life
What I believe about love
What I believe about happiness
Life direction
Where I want my life to go.
Passion
Purpose
Mission
Life's task
Life strategy (the code I live by)
Hopes/dreams/desires
Goals and ambitions
My ideal self (who I want to be in the future)
How I want to be perceived/remembered
Well-being
What impacts my well-being.
Needs
Happiness (what makes me happy)
What am I passionate about
Who do I like spending time with
Energy (what energizes and depleats me of energy)
Energizers (what builds my energy level)
Depleators (what drains my energy level)
Meaning (what do I find meaningful)
Mood
What has a positive impact on my mood
What has a negative impact on my mood
Character
What sets me apart from others.
Strengths
Weaknesses
Quirks (challenges/annoyances in...)
Communicating
Collaborating
Cohabiting
Patience
Punctuality
Traits
Behavior
The ways in which my behaviour is impacted positively and negatively.
Motivators (what drives me to action/keeps me going)
How ambitious I am
How I like to help
Where I have a sense of mastery and confidence
Where on the problematic scale I like to contribute (relieve pains vs produce gains)
What I need to remain motivated
At work
In a relationship
In life
Inhibitors (what holds me back/sends me running)
Fears
Insecurities
Phobia
Emotions I find difficult
Triggers
Risk aversion
Negative thoughts
Disorders
Cravings
Expectations
Mindset
Inclinations/tendencies
Approach to problem solving (planner vs doer/method vs intuition)
Thinking patterns (divergent vs convergent/strategic vs operational)
Habits
Blind spots
Stress response
Conflict aversion
Procrastination
Support needs
The ways in which I prefer, appreciate and need support.
Emotional support
Intellectual support
Recognition
Praise
Comfort
Favors
Pushing vs soothing
Cheering
Care
Consideration
Listening
Physical contact
Social
Self-perception
The ways in which I perceive, understand, feel about and treat myself long term.
Cognitive
Self-concept (perception of beliefs, values, personality traits and abilities)
Self-esteem (perception of self-worth and value as influcend by achievements, relationships, and personal experiences)
Self-efficacy (belief in ability to succeed in specific tasks or situations as influenced by achievements, relationships, and personal experiences)
Emotional
Self-regulation (ability to control and manage your own thoughts, emotions, and behaviors in order to achieve specific goals)
Social
Self-presentation (efforts to present yourself in a particular way to others, often based on social norms and expectations)
Self-transcendence (ability to connect with something beyond yourself, such as a larger community, a higher purpose, or a sense of spirituality)
Self-awareness (ability to recognize and understand your own thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, and how they may be perceived by others)
Relational
Self-love (deep and unconditional regard for oneself)
Self-worth (sense of worthiness based on one's inherent value as a human being)
Self-acceptance (ability to accept yourself and your quirks as you are, without judgment or criticism)
Self-respect (honoring your own beliefs and desires and not compromising your well-being for the sake of others)
Self-compassion (ability to be kind and understanding towards oneself in the face of difficulties, mistakes, or failures)
Identity
Who I am.
Personality type/traits
Temperament
Attachment style
Love language
Demeanour
Awareness
Presence
Biology
How my body works.
Sensitivity
Intimacy zone
Biorhythm
Immune system
Illnesses and medical conditions
Diagnoses
Libido
Thinking
How I think.
Attitudes/mindsets
Beliefs
Biases
Things I oppose
Things I don’t understand
Memory
Developmental blockers
What's keeping me from growing and reaching my full potential.
Emotional
Triggers
Uncertainties
Values
Identity
Life strategy
Religion
Cognitive
Mindset
Self-perception
Cognitive bias
Limiting beliefs
Blind spots
Thinking bugs
Incorrect assumptions
Skewed perspectives/opinions
Preferences (likes/dislikes)
What I enjoy.
Relationships
Environments
Food/drink (taste)
Music
Entertainment
Situations
Emotions
Sexual
Clothes
Beauty
Funny
Experiences
Boredom
Disgust
Attention
Hobbies/interests
Traits and values in others
Eirik Alfstad Johansen
Updated 17.06.2023